Finding Comfort In Fatherhood

When things get crummy it is easy to think that life is a terminal condition. This post helps shake those crummies. I can relate to the general disappointment with humanity, but I also know the inspiration of the home. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did – all credit to Dork Daddy.

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letter I remember being a youngster, old enough to stay up late enough to be in the room when the adults were watching the evening news on TV. It was the Regan-era and although it wasn’t the height of the Cold War, the sabre rattling and the ideological posturing between super powers was as fevered as ever. Although I was too young to appreciate the nuances, I could certainly appreciate the gravity of what was being reported. I knew what a nuclear bomb was. I knew we were pointing ours at them and they were pointing theirs at us. I knew exactly what nuclear war meant, and it scared the shit out of me. There were at least a few nights as a young boy where I remember staying up in bed unable to sleep, too anxious and afraid of what would happen if… *if* somebody pushed that “button.”

Since then…

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A D 3 Merry Christmas to you all!

Wow, the holidays have made the end of the year fly by. Obviously, our holiday adventures have kept me from sitting in front of the computer (and judging by blog traffice, the same goes for some of you!). I know we are technically a day early (and many of you out there know why this is such a great day for our family), but we are on the move. We are off to Los Abuelos’ house and Sister Older-Older’s house tomorrow. I know there will not be time to slam in a greeting, so we are sending one out today!

Much like our Thanksgiving greeting; Wife, Sweetie and I want to send warm wishes for a safe and happy holiday season out to all of you. Our family celebrates Christmas – so Merry Christmas to you all! We look forward to hearing from you and seeing you all in the New Year (but that’s next week so let’s not get ahead of ourselves!). For now, here’s the D 3 Family Christmas card:




Happy Holidays!

Goin’ Mo

In 2010 Micopadre invited me to grow join his Movember team. I didn’t understand at first, but quickly learned that I would be growing a mustache for the entire month of November. This was meant to be an engaging, fun way to raise funds for researching male cancer, supporting men who are currently fighting cancer and honoring survivors. It went well and planted a seed for future participation…and that future is now.

That’s right folks, the detour is “goin’ Mo” (maybe “growin’ Mo”?). This was a good idea last year, but I didn’t act on it. Now we’re on! We are going to try to utilize the detour to spread the word and raise money for men’s health.

If you get a minute, check out the Movember website. Their philosophy and activities are pretty cool stuff. I am still learning the facts and the numbers, so right now I am more of a men’s health advocate: Both Grandpa and Abuelo are male cancer survivors, and I think this is a solid way to honor them. The detour is doin’ it for them and survivors in general, supporting the current fighters and pushing for increased reasearch.

Sweetie has agreed to help in this endeavor, although her ‘stache is more immediate and impressive. I figure we will try to snap photos throughout our adventures this month. And although she won’t realize it, she will be contributing to the greater good. Hopefully, this is the beginning of a lifelong habit.

"Sweetie" 'stache

“Sweetie” ‘stache

So if you get a chance, please visit my Movember page and consider a donation: . The initial invitations have gone out to grow a team – please feel free to join “Gen Mo” if you are inspired! And thanks!

October 1 - all clean

October 1 – all clean

Testdrive: New Logo

Change is a good thing. Even though I am quite fond of the original D-3 logo I had a nagging feeling that it was not presenting the image I was going after. So I am trying this new one.

"The new style"

“The new style”

I kicked it around with Wife before, during and after the conception of this image. I think her ideas helped get us to a good point. I ran it past Captain Jack as well. His comments: “What I do like about the orange model is that it convey’s a bit more chaos especially as little one grows and doesn’t sit still…” I couldn’t have said it better.

So what does this new logo have to do with being a Stay-at-home Dad? Nothing really. Except that I burnt up precious sleep hours learning how to play with Photoshop. Hopefully I can churn out some t-shirts or stickers or some other really cool merchandise (that you must have in order to be a true SAHD!). It does help with the sense of ownership with the blog, though. Ah well, enjoy!


Forever an homage to the SAHD

March Madness is here!


We are taking a little break here from the usual entry format so we could be sure to cover some March Madness!  I decided to pay a little homage to the University of Illinois as we have a lot of family history there.  My father attended the Circle Campus in Chicago, Sweetie’s padrinos attended the Champaign-Urbana campus for their undergrad and post-grad programs, and Wife’s law degree is from the U of I Law School also in Champaign-Urbana.  So we wanted to show our support to the University of Illinois as they make their bid.  At the time of this writing, the University of Illinois men won their first game and are set to play again today (I learned that from Wife and Micomadre).

Okay, I learned that from Wife and Micomadre.  See, I don’t really know what March Madness is all about.  I know it has to do with college basketball, but that is about as far as I get.  Anyone who grew up with me has fond memories of watching my chubby childhood self “dribble” a basketball – with two hands.  Needless to say, there were not too many cool basketball players that were shorter, chubby, thick glasses wearing, and slightly un-coordinated.  Man, thank goodness for puberty!

All thanks to Micompadre and Micomadre for the outfit though, Sweetie does look super cute.  At the very least I got some cute pictures of Sweetie up and I can probably milk the March Madness distraction as an excuse for not getting more posts published!  Well, here’s to whatever your “March Madness” brings!

"The End"

“The End”

Wish List

I have a steadily growing “Wish List” of things that I would like to happen from writing this blog.  I am not sure how realistic the list is, but it is fun to let my mind wander.  Some of these things are more of a stretch than others.

I am thinking about merchandising.  I would start with something easy like decals, t-shirts and patches.  Maybe grow into “one-sies”, caps, beanies, spit-up towels.  There could be an adult line as well as a kid line.  Maybe I should get the logo dialed in first.

I would like to be a guest on the Ellen DeGeneres show.  I know that Ellen is not a stay-at-home Dad.  And that she and Portia de Rossi are not yet parents.  But I think Ellen is a funny, great, generous woman and she is high on my list of people who I would like to meet.  Since I don’t have a popular daytime show we would have to meet at hers.  Or she could stop by the house the next time she comes to Chicago.

I would like to meet Jay Leno and talk cars with him.  His show is on a little bit late for me, but I would accept an invitation to his show too.  I would really enjoy a tour of the Jay Leno’s Garage, though.  Hey, we both have a Buick Century.  Yes, his is much cooler…but only because he can start and drive it!  (okay, maybe there is more to it than that.)

I would like to sit down with Bob Harper and Jillian Michaels to talk about the parts of me that have gotten “squishy” since staying at home (I guess that was one benefit to running around for 12 hours a day fueled by caffeine).   I would like their help developing a SAHD workout, like something that I can fit in at nap time.  I figure Bob knows men’s bodies better, and Jillian knows parents’ lives better.  She left a popular television show to take care of family – she can offer some insight!  I am not looking to lose weight, so I don’t know that I need Dolvett Quince and Alison Sweeney to come by, but the whole crew is certainly welcome.  I figure it is more people to become enamored with Sweetie!

I would like to have lunch with Rick Bayless.  When the weather gets warmer Sweetie and I are going to take a trip downtown.  I plan on visiting Xoco for lunch, so maybe we will see him there.  Rick is a father to a daughter and might share some insight.  Or maybe some warnings!  I want to pick his brain about urban farming and alternative energy implementation as well.  Hey – at the very least we will get to try the food.

I want to drive Wife and Sweetie in the Century to have lunch at Superdawg.  Wife and I once gobbled down a quick dinner while Sweetie napped, but that’s not the right way to do Superdawg.  And the Versa is just not as cool at the Century.  At this writing the front sheet metal is all off and the car is not running.  But that’s okay because Sweetie can’t eat hot dogs yet.  I do have more time now to work on the car once we put Sweetie to bed.  Now I just need to get to it.

I would like this blog to turn into a revenue source.  I am going to explore writing contributions, sponsorship, the above mentioned merchandising.  It would be nice to have my income coming back in, so I will see if I can’t get something going.  Oh yeah, it would also be nice to have money for the Century project and maybe some new tattoos.  I better get working on those postings!

Wow, I almost forgot.  I would love to hear from President Barack Obama.  I think it would be cool if he weighed in on the site and even better is he shared some of his Dad-knowledge.  He is a Dad to two daughters – definitely something to tell there.  He is usually pretty busy when he comes back to Chicago, and I don’t see myself in DC any time soon.  Oh yeah, and he has an entire country to manage.  Anyway, here’s hoping.

I would like to meet more stay-at-home Dads.  I plan on contacting the Chicago Chapter of the National At-Home Dad Network.  And I am going to research celebrity Dads as well.  I know there are others out there, but I want to meet them.  I was at a recent social event with Sweetie and found that we were surrounded by more caretakers than parents.  And I get why it works out that way – we almost went that route.  But this is a tough gig sometimes, and sometimes I just need a little boost.  Wife is supportive and great about giving me a day off, but I think meeting other stay-at-home Dads will better serve the experience.  I set out on this blog-sperience to show my support for stay-at-home Dads but even I need that support.

What a random list.  Again, I don’t really know where this is going (which is why it is “uncategorized”).  And some of these are obviously more realistic than others.  Well, let’s see what happens.

Island of misfit toys

At first I was not what I would post under the “Uncategorized” heading (and unfortunately did not figure out how to remove it).  But since getting going with this stay-at-home thing and this blog thing, I am finding that sometimes my thoughts and experiences don’t fit into my nice little categories.  So  I will use this section for random entries, miscellaneous thoughts and ramblings…you know the misfit toys.  Not too much structure to these entries, but I think they will still have their substance.  Like most things these days, I think I will find the value as I dig deeper.